Last post I asked you to write down as many positive things about yourself you can think of in 1 minute. I bet some of you struggled with this…if not great! You might not need to read about self-esteem. However, the flip side is I bet you can come up with double or more negative thoughts about yourself in less than a minute. Right? And the sad part is that we tell ourselves these negative things all day every day. We “bully” ourselves!
Kids do the same thing! “I’m so ugly…I’m fat…I’m stupid…No one likes me at this school…I can’t do anything right…I never do the right thing…I’m going to fail this test/class/grade…no one is going to pick me to be on their team…my parents hate me…I have no friends…” The list goes on. Now add to those negative thoughts negative perceptions. (more…)
This week we’re going to be talking about our children’s self esteem. That can be a heavy subject!
I would like to know where you struggles with your own self esteem and when you think it began for you. Our ability to see the good in ourselves begins in childhood and either grows or is stunted as we mature. Our parents have a huge influence on what we think of ourselves and how much confidence we have in our ability to Be or Do great things.
When you think about self-esteem, you often get an image of someone in your mind that you know… Who are you picturing right now? Maybe they have a negative view of their body, they have zero confidence and are really shy, or maybe they never socialize for fear of embarrassment. And on the other side of that, you know people who seem to have a very strong confidence in themselves that seems arrogant and cocky. I bet you’re picturing someone else you know!
Where is the healthy middle?
Stop and Think—
Set your timer for 1 minute and write down as many positive things about yourself that you believe are good qualities.
Now…how many did you come up with? If you struggled with this, why did you struggle?
We will talk more throughout the week about how to combat this thing called self esteem and how to set our children up for success in this area.
Please share your experience in the comments and tell me where you struggle with your own self esteem. Do you know when this struggle began?